The Unseen Path to True Happiness
How to Recognize, Control, and Overcome Negative Emotions for a Happier Life
Firstly, let’s make it clear that everything that leads to a better life, happier life, will take some ‘not so beautiful’ and some ‘uninteresting’ and arguably some ‘ugly’ things in the background that need to be done to reach a better state of life in the future. Let’s make this clear.
This is nature and I am not responsible for this. So, being happy, which is a better state of life, also requires some ‘not so beautiful’ work in the background. So, if you agree with this and are willing to go through the rough paths that lead to a better life, then continue reading this post to achieve true happiness and not just an illusion of happiness. Let’s go!
What are “Belief Effects”?
I’ve talked about this in another post about the truth behind happiness and what you need to understand about happiness.
If you want to read that post click here👇
When our belief shapes our reality, it is the result of belief effects. Positive thoughts result in positive emotions and thus positive perception of the world. This phenomenon significantly affects both negative and positive thoughts and emotions. But, sometimes, this effect can be much stronger in the case of negative emotions. And this isn’t silly. A small negative thought that emerges can control our whole mind if left unmindful.
This ‘addiction’ towards negative thoughts is what affects our mental health and our chances of getting hurt. Thinking about negative emotions is in one way or another more comfortable than thinking about positive emotions. Because we don’t need to think about our life and its solvable problems when we are into our negative emotions. Negative emotions are more ‘comforting’ than positive emotions. This is why we need to control these negative emotions.
So, if negative emotions are naturally attracted by the human brain. In that case, we need effort to control those negative emotions and even more effort to produce positive emotions that are actually comforting rather than just creating an illusion of comfort as done by the negative emotions.
How to Control Negative Emotions?
The first step in controlling our negative emotions is to recognize it. For this, we need to observe ourselves. This simple act of watching ourselves throughout our lives will give us a better understanding of ourselves and know what thoughts trigger negative emotions and what experiences strengthen our connection with those negative emotions. After you observe yourself, you will know what are the negative thoughts and experiences you have to avoid interacting with and also how to avoid them.
Once you have done this you know exactly what to do when those triggering thoughts and experiences come your way.
Yes, you cannot avoid every experience that might trigger you but you can definitely control how you want to feel about those emotions. When you foresee a triggering emotion, you can choose to not get hurt by it and control interacting with those negative emotions, for which you are in control of how you respond to negative emotions.
What Causes Pain?
Interacting with those negative emotions is worth elaborating on. Interaction with negative emotions is when you respond to those negative emotions subconsciously, with a ‘shut up’ or ‘I don’t care what you say’ or even ‘you cannot hurt me’ type of statement. These are all forms of interacting with pain, and even saying ‘shut up’ to the negative emotion will still keep you connected to that negative emotion regardless of how successful you think you are in controlling your negative emotions. You still attach your rescue from the negative emotions to itself. You are not free from that negative emotion. So, what’s the solution to this?
Ignore Without Interaction.
I’ve talked about controlling your thoughts previously in a post. So, if you want a detailed review of that post, click here👇
The fundamental way to not get affected by a negative emotion is to not interact with it or in other words, ignore it. Not just ignorance but ignorance without interaction. Ignorance without interacting is by far the best way to neglect negative emotions in our lives. Not even telling a single word or even the slightest gesture towards negative emotions is the best way to heal faster, get hurt less, and ultimately live happier.
Ignore without interaction.
That’s the way to a happier life. As mentioned, it is not a ‘beautiful’ path. It requires effort to ignore and neglect every negative emotion that comes your way. It requires effort to be happy. So, if you are happy, then be proud of yourself for putting in that effort to be happier. Cheers!, you deserve it!
If you are not happy, then put in the effort to make yourself happier and be proud of that effort.
One more thing that I want to leave you with is that,
If noticing your pain is automatic, put in the effort to make it manual. If noticing your pain is manual, then just stop noticing your pain! You are free! You are allowed to not notice your pain!
So, that’s it guys, hope you learned something from this post and helped you make your life a little bit better.
If you loved this post and gained some value, I’d be really happy if you hit that❤️
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-Jasir Ibrahim
-The Mindset, The Ultimate Mental Growth Model.