How to Control Your Freakin' Mind!?
How Your Thoughts Control Your Experiences and How to Control Your Thoughts.
Sometimes you feel like the external events and experiences are the ones that are causing you trouble, the things outside your control. But in the almost unacceptable reality,
Your Thoughts Control Your Experiences.
This might not make sense when you first get to know it, but upon observing yourself, during your non-messed-up state, you realize the above-said lines are very much real and promising. These lines will make sense when your mental health is in good condition, your ability to accept the true things as the way it is respectable, and when you are in the ‘realized’ state.
It is really easy to believe that external events are the ones that are messing you up. Because it is easy to assume something when you don’t know what is true and when you don’t need to think about it and do the hard work to make it make sense to you. And, whenever something is easy you can, pretty much under all life conditions, know that it is not the correct path.
I am not saying everything other than a grinding life is a sin. But if something is too easy, even thought processes, decisions, choosing your thoughts, and many more, you can be at least a little bit sure that the problems that arise are caused by easy choices.
Making the Right Choice.
To not make easy choices, the first step is to know what is easy. For this, you have to first observe yourself and the way you feel when you make a decision. Self-observation is the key to leading life on the right path.
Second, to know what is acceptably hard.
Third, choose it over other options. You won’t regret taking a harder path after you come out from the other end if it has helped you in making your life better.
How Your Thoughts Control Your Experiences.
Back to where we started. External experiences are not what is messing you up, but your thoughts about those external experiences that are disturbing you and draining you.
Your perception and your thoughts before an event will greatly impact the way you feel when that event happens.
Suppose you think deceiving thoughts before some event. In that case, you are way more likely to experience deceiving and settling feelings which in turn produce more deceiving thoughts, which bring even more unhealthy feelings and it turns out to be a total mess.
So, the key is to grab and keep your thoughts under control right at the beginning. So, let’s learn how to control your freakin’ mind right at the beginning!
Control Your Freakin’ Mind!
Disclaimer! Just like anything that gives beautiful and good-looking end products in this world requires quite a lot of background work that is rough, miserable, ugly, and generally isn't pretty, controlling the mind too isn’t pretty. The background work isn't particularly beautiful. But if you are okay with this let's learn how to control your freakin’ mind! Let's go.
Know What You Want to Control.
The first step in controlling your mind is to know what you want to control. This knowledge can seem very obvious but if left easy on, can put you in many weird situations where you don’t know what you need to control and what you don’t need to. It is basically like getting caught in the middle of a desert, not knowing where you want to go, and doubting which path will lead you faster to the city.
Self-Observation
Self-observation is the only key to control your mind. Without this, you don’t know where to apply ‘controlling the mind’ or know what is triggering that you want to get away from. With self-observation, you know when to activate your response, more on that later, when you experience something that triggers a feeling that you are looking to avoid.
The Response to Triggers.
The way you respond to triggers plays a huge role in actually controlling your mind or living in an illusion of a controlled mind.
Let me explain.
Upon experiencing a triggering emotion, most people will respond to it with a ‘shut up’ or ‘I don’t care what you say’ or ‘you cannot control me’.
This is where the problem lies. Your response to the trigger.
Responding to a triggering emotion will only make you closer to it. Let me clarify. Your response, i.e., interaction with the negative thoughts will only make you closer to it.
Your slightest back answer to a trigger or even the slightest gesture towards a negative thought is physically making the neural connections stronger between you and the negative emotion that you are trying to avoid!
So, do we really have a solution for this seemingly inevitable connection between you and your negative emotions?
The answer is a big YES!
Ignore Without Interaction.
That's right! Any type of interaction is only going to pull you closer to that negative thought no matter how successful you think you are in controlling a certain emotion. Because you are literally tying your rescue to your trigger itself and it gets attached to it forever.
This is why you constantly go back to the thing that you are trying to avoid. The problem is your interaction with your trigger.
Ignoring without interaction is the biggest insight that will help you control your mind, heal faster, get hurt less, and ultimately live happier, which is the ultimate goal of most of life.
So, that’s it guys, this is what I have to say about how thoughts control your experiences and how you can control those thoughts that deceive you.
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