Life is Hard?
If you look closer, what are the things that make your life hard? On the surface, these may be general hardships such as job, exam pressure, relationship issues, and many more that we experience throughout our lives. This is on the surface. But if we dive deeper into the root cause of these issues, we find the three checkpoints that increase our pain and cause us to suffer.
In the book Don’t Believe Everything You Think, the author Joseph Nguyen, says that, referring to Buddha’s words, in life two arrows come toward you during hard times. The first arrow is the arrow of pain and the second is the arrow of suffering. He says that the first arrow is inevitable and will not let a man live without it. The second arrow, the arrow of suffering, however, is optional. We can choose not to suffer.
This is what I would like to talk about in this post. In the end, you will be convinced that you can choose not to suffer, by gaining the knowledge of the three checkpoints that increase our pain and cause us to suffer.
Let’s dive deeper into the world of wisdom that teaches us to heal faster, get hurt less, and live happier.
Level 1: Noticing and Anticipation.
Noticing and Anticipation. More accurately, noticing and anticipating the pain. Since this is one of three things that increase our pain and cause us to suffer our goal is to avoid doing these three things.
What do I mean by noticing and anticipation? Noticing and anticipating our pain is something that we do subconsciously probably every single day. It is one of the main causes that keep you stuck to your pain for long and prevent you from healing.
So, how do you control this act of noticing and anticipating the pain?
The first step is to clearly identify what is your pain. This is crucial. Not knowing what you want to get away from can create a good amount of confusion in your mind. So, the first step is to identify what is your pain.
The next step is to know when you are noticing or anticipating the pain you want to avoid. This knowledge will help you know when to trigger your act against the pain. Knowing when you are noticing or anticipating your pain brings self-realization into the picture. Self-realization allows you to know and be aware of the changes happening within yourself, your mind, and your body. Through self-realization, you can be more aware of where you spend your energy and understand what helps in growing or draining you.
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Level 2: Interaction and Complaining.
In this level of learning to avoid suffering, interaction with and complaining about pain is the main culprit.
Interaction with pain is at rock bottom, the root cause of all prolonged suffering, and complaining is the extension after you have exhausted interacting with your pain.
Interaction with pain at the base is a psychological addiction that is followed to satisfy a superstition rather than an actual curse for which no cure exists.
Since learning to control the interaction with pain is a game of controlling your thoughts, I recommend reading the below-embedded post after you finish reading this one. But to give you continuity, I shall briefly explain “interaction with pain” in this post.
Learn more about controlling your thoughts here:
Ignore Without Interaction
First, you need to stop interacting with the thoughts you want to avoid, assuming you have already identified what you need to avoid. Every interaction, the slightest back answer or gesture against the negative thought you want to avoid is only going to make you closer to it. Because the neural circuits between you and your pain are literally getting stronger every time you interact with your pain. The solution to this is to ignore without interaction. It is hands down the best way to avoid getting affected by pain of any sort or magnitude.
About the complaining part, it’s an extension of pain when you can’t stop yourself from interacting with the pain that you know you want to avoid.
Learning to not interact with and complain about pain is one of the healthiest habits to learn to keep yourself away from your pain and avoid suffering.
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Level 3: Wanting to Get Out.
This level is the threshold. It is sadly the result of failure to avoid pain in the previous two levels. It is standing at the edge of a cliff led by the lack of knowledge of the other two levels to avoid suffering.
It is due to the lack of knowledge and wisdom, this position of painful extreme threshold is experienced.
Every pain and suffering in this world is sustained by the lack of enough supporting positive knowledge and wisdom that points to the truth.
Supporting knowledge and wisdom is the ultimate cure for all pain and suffering in this world.
Without supporting knowledge and wisdom, we with our minds that naturally attract negative emotions, are a mere self-destructive soul that eternally decays and is useful to none.
So, the main purpose of our life, which is to sustain it, surrounds and builds around supporting knowledge and wisdom that helps to sustain our life, both our body and our minds.
So, it is crucial to build the necessary knowledge and wisdom to sustain in this world, the knowledge and wisdom that allows you to heal faster, get hurt less, and live happier. Because it is very much necessary in this world.
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People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
-Thich Nhat Hahn
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